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The Holiday Challenge You’ll Never Forget!

Cindy Dawson

Our extended family was all together for the holidays when something unusual happened. Pastor Mike challenged the congregation to go for a whole month without complaining.

Our family took on the challenge (all 8 of us). Christina had the idea that if you complained about something, you had to sing your words! Here are a couple of the “songs” that were sung at dinner that night:

“Is that kale in my salad?”

“I thought we were eating at 6:45!”

Naturally, these songs had everyone in hysterics!

Cousins, Christina and Patricia making dinner

Needless to say, it was a lot of fun! Not only that, it cut down on complaining because if anyone came even close to complaining, the others immediately made the guilty party sing it!

After I was caught complaining, I said, “But I’m just stating a fact!” Guess what? If the fact is negative, that’s complaining!

Our family kept this up for about 3 hours and I learned something. We complain and don’t even realize we’re doing it! (That is until you get caught!)

So why not take this family holiday challenge? God says,

“Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation. Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky as you hold firmly to the word of life.” Philippians 2:14-16 NIV (emphasis mine)

Have you ever been around someone who never complained? Nice, isn’t it? Have you ever been around anyone who complained constantly? Not so nice! It’s pretty straightforward. Complainers don’t make bright stars in the darkness.

God knows that complaining isn’t good for us. If only we would just obey Him! Science has proven that complaining is unhealthy. Consider this:

  1. Complaining changes the way people see you. “According to Travis Bradberry, PhD, “Repeated complaining rewires your brain to make future complaining more likely. Over time, you find it’s easier to be negative than to be positive, regardless of what’s happening around you. Complaining becomes your default behavior, which changes how people perceive you.”
  2. Complaining causes brain damage. Research from Stanford University has shown that complaining shrinks the hippocampus—an area of the brain that’s critical to problem-solving and intelligent thought. Damage to the hippocampus is scary, especially when you consider that it’s one of the primary brain areas destroyed by Alzheimer’s.
  3. Complaining has negative health effects. When you complain, your body releases the stress hormone cortisol. One effect of cortisol, for example, is to raise your blood pressure and blood sugar…  All the extra cortisol released by frequent complaining impairs your immune system and makes you more susceptible to high cholesterol, diabetes, heart disease, and obesity. It even makes the brain more vulnerable to strokes.

So I challenge you to accept the “Don’t Complain Challenge”. For one month, you can’t complain about anything. See what happens. Pastor Mike guarantees that it will make you a happier, healthier, and more positive person. You will not only feel better, but you will become a person others like to be around.

You will be “seen as bright lights (stars or beacons shining out clearly) in the [dark] world, Holding out [to it] and offering [to all men] the Word of Life…” Philippians 2:15b-16a AMPC

Cover Photo by Sarah Kilian on Unsplash

20 thoughts on “The Holiday Challenge You’ll Never Forget!”

  2. I want to embark on this challenge. I’ve sent it to my family as well. 🙏🏼 I pray we can do this.
    Another verse that comes to mind, “Slow to speak, quick to listen, and slow to get angry.” ☺️

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  4. I’ve gotta wonder about the 1st point of unhealthy results of complaining, that over time we find it’s easier to be negative than to be positive, regardless of what’s happening.
    I don’t doubt it at all. But I wonder if speaking positive comments wouldn’t have the same – but opposite – results: that over time we would find it easier to feel positive rather than negative, regardless of what’s happening.

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  7. That’s fun! I think that it’s important to explain to the kiddies , the difference between complaining and confiding in someone when one has a difficult problem to handle. I love the idea –singing complaints , smiles. I’m not sure that would stop me from complaining since I like singing and I probably would make a big joke of it and have everyone singing something or other. Smiles. Great entry! And I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving and also, be prepared for a magnificent Christmas and New Years! Peace for your upcoming year. 🙂 artfromperry

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