Do you think you could go a whole month without complaining even once?
I visited my Dad’s church Sunday and Pastor Mike challenged the whole congregation to go for a whole month without complaining.
Our family took on the challenge (all 8 of us). Christina had the idea that if you complained about something, you had to sing your words! Here are a couple of the “songs” that were sung at dinner that night:
“Is that kale in my salad?”
“I thought we were eating at 6:45!”

Get the idea? Needless to say, it was a lot of fun! Not only that, it cut down on complaining because everyone was being careful not to. And if anyone came even close to complaining, the others immediately made the guilty party sing it!
After I was caught complaining, I said, “But I’m just stating a fact!” Guess what? If the fact is negative, that’s complaining!
Our family kept this up for about 3 hours and I learned something. We complain and don’t even realize we’re doing it! (That is, until you get caught!)
So why take this family holiday challenge? God says,
“Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation. Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky as you hold firmly to the word of life.” Philippians 2:14-16 NIV

Shine among them like stars in the sky
And don’t forget how the Israelites complained in the wilderness after being set free from bondage and witnessing one miracle after another. (That’s a whole post in itself!)
“All the Israelites grumbled against Moses and Aaron, and the whole assembly said to them, “If only we had died in Egypt! Or in this wilderness!” Numbers 14:2 NIV
Have you ever been around anyone who never complained? Pretty nice isn’t it? Have you ever been around anyone who complained constantly? Not so nice! It’s pretty straight forward. Complainers don’t make bright stars in the darkness.

Complaining has negative health effects.
God knows that complaining isn’t good for us. If only we would just obey Him! Science has proven that complaining is unhealthy. Consider this.
- Complaining changes the way people see you. “According to Travis Bradberry, PhD, “Repeated complaining rewires your brain to make future complaining more likely. Over time, you find it’s easier to be negative than to be positive, regardless of what’s happening around you. Complaining becomes your default behavior, which changes how people perceive you.”
- Complaining causes brain damage. Research from Stanford University has shown that complaining shrinks the hippocampus—an area of the brain that’s critical to problem solving and intelligent thought. Damage to the hippocampus is scary, especially when you consider that it’s one of the primary brain areas destroyed by Alzheimer’s.
- Complaining has negative health effects. When you complain, your body releases the stress hormone cortisol. One effect of cortisol, for example, is to raise your blood pressure and blood sugar… All the extra cortisol released by frequent complaining impairs your immune system and makes you more susceptible to high cholesterol, diabetes, heart disease, and obesity. It even makes the brain more vulnerable to strokes.
So I challenge you to accept the “Don’t Complain Challenge”. For one month you can’t complain about anything. See what happens. Pastor Mike guarantees that it will make you a happier, healthier, and more positive person. You will not only feel better, you will become a person others like to be around.
You will be “seen as bright lights (stars or beacons shining out clearly) in the [dark] world, Holding out [to it] and offering [to all men] the Word of Life…” Philippians 2:15b-16a AMPC
With Love,

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Dr. Travis Bradberry is the award-winning coauthor of Emotional Intelligence 2.0.
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Interesting. I am very doubtful of going through a month without complaining 😔
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I didn’t make it through 1 whole day! But, we can try! Blessings, Perth!
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I want to embark on this challenge. I’ve sent it to my family as well. 🙏🏼 I pray we can do this.
Another verse that comes to mind, “Slow to speak, quick to listen, and slow to get angry.” ☺️
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Great! I’m so glad you’re joining the challenge! God bless you and your family! Many blessings, Tiffany!
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God bless you and the family as well. Peace be with you. 💛
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Thank you, Tiffany!
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We definitely do ourselves and others a favor when we’re not negative. I best way I know how to do this is to be intentionally thankful/grateful. Great post Cindy ♥
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Yes! I agree. Be thankful. Thanks for commenting. Blessings, Jacquie!
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I’ve gotta wonder about the 1st point of unhealthy results of complaining, that over time we find it’s easier to be negative than to be positive, regardless of what’s happening.
I don’t doubt it at all. But I wonder if speaking positive comments wouldn’t have the same – but opposite – results: that over time we would find it easier to feel positive rather than negative, regardless of what’s happening.
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Thanks for your insightful comments. I think your question about being positive is probably correct. Being thankful certainly changes our outlook on life. Blessings, Kathy!
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Keep trying and don’t give up! The spiritual rewards and health benefits are well with it! I will take the challenge, too!
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Thanks for responding to the challenge. I hope you do better than I’m doing! Blessings, DeborahMarie!
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I’m sure going to try. I’m including the Lord in this, too. Sometimes I’m guilty of complaining to Him, too😊
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I love this! I may challenge my family – including myself!
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It’s funny (at first)! Let me know how it goes! Hope you have a wonderful holiday season. Blessings, Annie!
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I may have to include arguing with that challenge. I know a couple of little girls who will get into a disagreement about what constitutes complaining! 😀 (“You complained!” “Did not!” “Did too!”)
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Oh yes! We included arguing, too!
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That’s fun! I think that it’s important to explain to the kiddies , the difference between complaining and confiding in someone when one has a difficult problem to handle. I love the idea –singing complaints , smiles. I’m not sure that would stop me from complaining since I like singing and I probably would make a big joke of it and have everyone singing something or other. Smiles. Great entry! And I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving and also, be prepared for a magnificent Christmas and New Years! Peace for your upcoming year. 🙂 artfromperry
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You’re right about explaining to children. When we did it, it was all adults. I hope you have fun with the challenge! God bless, Perry!
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