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Tuesday’s Verse, 11/30/21

“The commands of the Lord are clear,
    giving insight for living.” Psalm 19:8b NLT

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Monday’s Verse, 11/29/21

“I love you, Lord, my strength. The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer;
    my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge,
    my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold. Psalm 18:1-2 NIV Read full chap

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Sunday’s Memory Verse, 11/28/21

“So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.” Matthew 7:12 NIV Read full chapter

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Friday’s Verse, 11/26/21

“May the words of my mouth
    and the meditation of my heart
be pleasing to you,
    O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.” Psalm 19:14 NLT Read full chapter

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Verses for Meditation, 11/25/21

He reached down from heaven and rescued me;
    he drew me out of deep waters.
17 He rescued me from my powerful enemies,
    from those who hated me and were too strong for me.
18 They attacked me at a moment when I was in distress,
    but the Lord supported me.
19 He led me to a place of safety;
    he rescued me because he delights in me. Psalm 18:16-19 NLT Read full chapter

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Quote of the Week, 11/24/21

When I look at where I’ve been, I see that what I am becoming is a whole lot further down the road from where I was.

Gloria Gaither

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Tuesday’s Verse, 11/23/21

Then he said to his disciples, “The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few.  Ask the Lord of the harvest, therefore, to send out workers into his harvest field.” Matthew 9:37-38 Read full chapter

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Monday’s Verse, 11/22/21

(Jesus) said to them, “Whoever welcomes this little child in my name welcomes me; and whoever welcomes me welcomes the one who sent me. For it is the one who is least among you all who is the greatest.” Luke 9:48 NIV Read full chapter

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Sunday’s Memory Verse, 11/21/21

“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Matthew 6:21 Read full chapter

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Being a Good Listener May Be Harder Than You Think

I rushed into the hospital elevator at 7pm, finally going home to rest. A young woman jumped in with me at the last second. She was having a panic attack. The doors closed.

She looked at me with a wild look in her eyes and said, “I’ve got to get out of this @#$%&! hospital! I need a cigarette!” I knew she was in bad shape. I didn’t know what might happen next, but I was filled with compassion.

As we quickly walked out through the lobby into the cold night air, she poured out her story.

“My man is in the hospital. My grandma has cancer. I don’t know what I’m going to do. I don’t know how I’m getting home. My baby needs me. @#$%&!”

She talked nonstop as her shaking hands lit up a cigarette in the freezing cold. As I talked to her I found out that she had walked 2 hours to get to the hospital and was going to have to walk 2 hours to get home. I offered to take her home. We talked non-stop during the 15-minute drive to her trailer park.

When I pulled to a stop, I asked if I could pray for her. She said yes, but I became so emotional I could barely speak. She gave me a big hug and said, “I’m so glad I met someone nice!”

I’ll never forget her, a young woman named Montana who needed a friend. She said she would pray for me, too. We said goodbye and I never saw her again.

It made me feel good to know God had used me to help someone. But there have also been times that I’ve tried to encourage someone and I wondered if I did more harm than good. Encouraging someone who is grieving or experiencing extreme stress can be tricky. This has happened to me recently, too.

“If you try too hard to calm them down or hold them back, you’ll run the risk of trivializing their complaints and making them feel worse.”

Gregorio Billikopf

Consider these tips for being genuinely supportive from the website DON’T LOSE HOPE:

– Give that person your full and undivided attention. Do not allow yourself to be distracted by anything AT All.

– Pay attention to your body language. You should come across as being still, calm, focused, with an open body posture, and good steady eye contact (but don’t stare!)

–  Say very little. Your job is to listen. Not to comment. Not to give advice. Your only job is to listen to this person.

– Don’t ask extraneous questions. Don’t change the topic. Don’t offer platitudes.

– Allow for brief periods of silence. This is a heavy topic. Don’t rush the speaker. Sit with the silence.  

– Don’t talk about your, or anyone else’s, experience. The focus right now is the speaker’s experience.

– Notice and point out any strengths in the speaker. This sends the powerful message that they’re going to survive.

We never know when an opportunity to extend God’s love might be right around the corner. I’ve discovered that I need to know how to be a good listener (and it isn’t always as easy as I thought).

Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”

Galatians 6:2 ESV

With Love, Cindy

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Sources:

https://sexaddictionpartners.wordpress.com/2021/08/07/why-people-dont-talk-about-their-trauma/ Don’t Lose Hope website, Why People Don’t Talk About Their Trauma

https://lifehacker.com/how-to-be-a-good-listener-when-someone-needs-to-vent-1749934054

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